Caring Enough To Confront
Confrontation has never been one of my strong suits. Merriem loves to tell the stories of our dating and early marriage days when I wouldn’t even speak up if a restaurant got my order wrong…
Me: Mmmm…these salmon cakes and asparagus look delicious!
Merriem: But baby, you ordered apple pie.
But through the years – especially as a pastor – I’ve learned the importance of the occasional, well-timed confrontation. Perhaps it’s with a husband who has let his relationship with his wife drift. Maybe it’s with a volunteer who has let the vision of their ministry leak. Possibly it’s with an entire church that has become too complacent with sin.
Regardless of the reason behind the confrontation, we rarely love people well if we’re too scared to confront.
Don’t get me wrong – there are times that we can confuse confrontation with our own twisted sense of self-righteousness and nosiness. In all things, God needs to guide our need to lovingly confront through the truth of scripture. But when God guides, we need to allow him to use us as necessary.
Don’t be afraid of the tough conversations. Avoiding them only makes it harder.