As you’ve heard by now, the tabloids’ latest earth-shattering news is the divorce of reality show stars Jon & Kate Gosselin. I’ve become a fan of their show mainly through my wife, who digs Kate’s hair. I like Jon’s one liners and think that one kid with the glasses is pretty funny.
I know I’m running a huge risk of turning in a man card because I’m blogging about J & K, but here’s why I chose to do so: they profess to be Christ followers, and yet the last few months have caused many to wonder the depth of their faith. Let me be clear: I’m not going to get anywhere close to making a judgment call on who is right and who is wrong. This is reality TV and The National Enquirer, for crying out loud, so we’ve seen what the photographers have wanted us to see. However, let’s assume that J & K are the committed believers they claim to be, and this latest turn of events is simply a reflection of our fallen world. If that’s the case, here’s my message:
It’s not too late.
I’ve sat across the table from more divorcing couples than I can count. Some have hurtled headlong into the choice that they’ve already made. Many have chosen to die to self, submit to the cross, and find healing in Christ. In every one of those latter cases, their marriages have turned out stronger than they could have imagined. I believe that God reserves his greatest miracles for couples who put their future in his hands. The reason for this is simple enough, and you’ve heard Pastor J.D. say it hundreds of times before: divorce tells a lie about who Christ is.
Ephesians 5 reminds us that marriage is a picture of Christ’s relationship with the church. Jesus promised to never leave us or forsake us. There is nothing we can do to escape his love and his pursuit. He never gets tired of loving us, even when we openly rebel against him. Every time I officiate a wedding, I refer to Ephesians 5 and remind the couple of the truth that they are illustrating to their family and friends. So when a couple divorces, they pollute the truth of this passage and illustrate something else: that human commitments can be broken, human vows can be tarnished, and human promises can be dissolved.
And yes, that’s often the result of our fallen world. But it doesn’t have to be. Couples can really find hope in the solid ground of the cross. They can find hope in their circumstances. They can find hope in the most hopeless of situations, but it takes a mutual submission to the truth of scripture, and often the help of a Christ-centered third party counselor.
During this process of watching Jon & Kate’s marriage crumble, I’ve decided I really like those people. They’re the kind of folks I think I’d like to have coffee with. I’d pinch the kid with the glasses on the cheeks. My wife even tried to convince me to write a letter to Jon and tell him I’d be glad to talk to him if he’d like (I didn’t, because I’m guessing I’d be just one of a thousand such offers, and besides, then a man card really would get pulled).
But truly, I’m praying for them. I’m praying for their kids. I’m ignoring all of the rumors and innuendos and paparazzi nonsense. And I pray that they’ll realize that with the truth of the gospel, it’s never too late.